Monday, September 12, 2011


I wasn't going to say anything. Nine eleven was yesterday. A catastrophic flood-- the aftermath from Hurricane Lee-- has wrecked homes and lives all through upstate New York. There are big problems, big things to worry about. 

I wasn't going to tell you that one of our cats got hit by a car. 

And yet, digging down into the ground together this morning, Patrick and I, as the fog lifted reluctantly off the hills and the dew dried in the weeds, there was beauty. I wanted to tell you. There was beauty in the way we swatted each others' mosquitoes and leaned back and forth, leaning back as the other leaned forward to scrape more dirt out from around the roots of our birch tree. There was beauty in the way we gathered goldenrod and asters, working together, sharing tears. 

It reminded me-- and not that I needed a reminder-- of how much I love Patrick. He isn't afraid to feel things alongside me-- even if those things are grief and sadness. I'm grateful. It's the sort of thing that's going to make the empty spot on top of the fridge a little easier to bear.

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Meand3Jays said...

How awful. I am so, so sorry for your loss. My boys and I have two cats that we love dearly and I can only imagine how sad you must be. Terribly sorry.

Huhnybee said...

I'm so sorry to hear of Ophelia's passing. I'm sending a big hug your way. It is so hard to lose them.

Becky said...

Oh Kristina. There are no words i can share to sooth your hurt. So glad you and Patrick are the couple that you are. Ophelia will await you at the Rainbow Bridge.

Lisa-Marie said...

Kristina, big sadnesses do not make your personal sadness any less so. I am so very sorry for you loss. I am happy you found beauty in the day too though. Having a partner who is truly there is a very rare thing. xx

chasing keegan said...

I am sorry for the loss of Ophelia. It is never easy to lose a pet, as they are always so much more then that. Never think that you can't share your sorrows, your readers are always here for you. You have a wonderful man to lean on. Sending you happy thoughts to push away the sad ones.

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